Last night I was tormented in my dreams with feelings of guilt about things that happened long ago. I am sure that on at least a few occasions you have similar dreams. If not, good for you. A counselor would suggest my subconscious was still processing what had happened and working through a process of self-forgiveness. I’m not so sure. I think I just  had a bad dream. But it got me to thinking and remembering – Forgiveness is a process.

It doesn’t happen overnight, especially when it comes to self-forgiveness. In my opinion, the most difficult and stubborn person we ever need to forgive. It is because the self has very few healthy outlets for its anger. Forgiveness certainly never happens over night, but ultimately is necessary for our own sake. Failure to forgive is like a cancer. It eats at our insides and occupies all our thoughts. We forgive not only because we know  it is the right thing to do, but because it is the only way we can heal. We grow stronger from forgiving others, regardless of what forgiveness does for them.

About the author

Webb Hubbell is the former Associate Attorney General of The United States. His novels, When Men Betray, Ginger Snaps, A Game of Inches, The Eighteenth Green, and The East End are published by Beaufort Books and are available online or at your local bookstore. When Men Betray won one of the IndieFab awards for best novel in 2014. Ginger Snaps and The Eighteenth Green won the IPPY Awards Gold Medal for best suspense/thriller. His latest, “Light of Day” will be on the bookstands soon.


  1. Web,
    Thanks for that. I have been going through that myself lately (not the dreams but the guilt). I have been reading a book by Thich Nhat Hanh called “FEAR” essential wisdom for getting throught the storm. It is good, teaches mindfulness but it has been bringing up guilt feelings about things that had happened a very long time ago.

  2. Thanks John. I think self-guilt is a very difficult thing to overcome. I’ll check out the book and its good to hear from you. Webb

  3. I happened upon my friend Roger today, who happened upon me, your Hubbell scope. after reading your article on Aaron (very moving, by the way) I happened upon your blog! alas… every book I have picked up in the past week, be it fiction or non, there is a passage on forgiveness. A gentle, at first, nudge to pay attention and then just a flat out smack in the face to take action on forgiveness. Thank you for forgiving yourself enough to not only show up for life but to participate in it. Thich also wrote a book on anger that helps in this area of forgiveness! “there are no coincidences” were Roger’s parting words…

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