My daughter just took her daughter off to college. Parents have when they take their children to college — faith. Faith that across the developmental stages of individuation and separation, some unbroken bond of love will remain. In most cases, that bond not only remains but grows.
The idea that separation can strengthen relationships is counterintuitive, as we often equate closeness with love and happiness. However, there’s a certain beauty in the space that allows for growth and reflection.
Separation allows for individual growth. When children leave home for college, they embark on a journey of self-discovery. This independence can lead to a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationship with their parents.
The absence of daily interactions can often make us appreciate what we have. When we’re not constantly around someone, we may realize how much we miss them and how important they are to us.
The daily grind of living together can sometimes lead to minor conflicts and irritations. When people are apart, these distractions are removed, allowing for a more focused and positive connection.
Separation can provide a fresh perspective on a relationship. When we’re apart, we may see our loved ones in a new light, appreciating qualities we might have overlooked.
The anticipation of reunion can make the time apart even more meaningful. Knowing that there’s someone we can’t wait to see can add excitement and joy to our lives.
While separation may seem challenging, it can be a powerful tool for strengthening relationships. By allowing for space and independence, we can create a healthier and more fulfilling bond with our loved ones.
I have often said that it much easier to love my siblings now that we don’t live together. 😁
So very true. W.