Winning

The confetti has settled, the roar of the crowd has faded, and the Eagles have hoisted the Super Bowl trophy. We celebrate their victory, a clear win defined by the final score. This resonates with our understanding of winning, ingrained from childhood games to adult competitions: a quantifiable measure, often points, time, or distance, declaring one participant superior to the rest. The fastest runner wins the race, the team with the most goals wins the match. These victories are tangible, easily recognized.

But life, as we know, isn’t played on a field with clearly marked lines and a ticking clock. While some might chase the illusion of winning through material wealth or power, those metrics are as ephemeral as a Mardi Gras parade. They shift and change, leaving those who prioritize them constantly grasping for more, never truly satisfied. True success, a fulfilling life, isn’t about accumulating points or conquering opponents. It’s far more nuanced and personal.

The definition of winning in life is deeply subjective, shaped by our individual values and aspirations. What one person considers a triumph, another might see as insignificant. For some, it might be building a loving family, for others, it could be making a significant contribution to their community, or perhaps achieving a personal best in a challenging endeavor. The spectrum of possibilities is vast and varied.

My old coach’s words echo in my mind: “Don’t lose your poise.” This simple phrase encapsulates a profound truth about winning in life. It reminds us that the how is just as important as the what. We can achieve outward success, amass wealth or climb the corporate ladder, but if we do so by compromising our integrity, sacrificing our relationships, or neglecting our well-being, have we truly won? Absolutely not. In fact, we’ve lost far more than any trophy could ever compensate.

Losing our poise in the game of life means losing sight of our values. It’s allowing the pursuit of external validation to corrupt our internal compass. It’s prioritizing the applause of the crowd over the quiet voice of our conscience. True winning in life, then, is about maintaining that poise, that inner equilibrium, even amidst the pressures and temptations that inevitably arise. It’s about navigating the complexities of life with grace, integrity, and a steadfast commitment to our core principles. It’s about staying true to ourselves, even when the stakes are high and the allure of a shortcut is strong. Ultimately, the most meaningful victory is the one we win within ourselves, the quiet satisfaction of knowing we lived a life of purpose, meaning, and unwavering integrity.

About the author

Webb Hubbell is the former Associate Attorney General of The United States. His novels, When Men Betray, Ginger Snaps, A Game of Inches, The Eighteenth Green, and The East End are published by Beaufort Books and are available online or at your local bookstore. When Men Betray won one of the IndieFab awards for best novel in 2014. Ginger Snaps and The Eighteenth Green won the IPPY Awards Gold Medal for best suspense/thriller. His latest, “Light of Day” will be on the bookstands soon.

Leave a Reply +

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *