Less desire means less pain — Buddhist Wisdom
Not being a follower I am not sure about the above quote’s meaning. Maybe my Eastern spiritualists friends can help me here. My reaction is probably wrong.
My daughter asked me the other day if I ever had a broken heart. It is not a question I wanted to answer in front of her mother so I deflected it by saying, “I am sure your mother broke a lot of hearts in her day.”
I do know without answering her question that I wouldn’t forgo the pain of my broken hearts I had if I could. There is something wonderful about the passion and vulnerability that gives rise to the ultimate broken heart. To love that intensely means you are alive, and to experience pain is proof that you loved and lived.
We all experience pain from loss, and when we do, we need to remind ourselves that the intensity of the pain we feel is simply a mirror image of the love we once had and can have again. To my mind, desire and lust don’t come close to the wonders of true love.