The Unlovable


How do we love the unlovable?

My little grandchild sometimes says and believes that, “nobody loves me.” Of course it is not true and quickly she is on to the next adventure or trauma.

We sometimes come to a similar belief and conclusion about ourselves. Usually our pity party takes a while to get over, but it too doesn’t last forever.

These type of events are not fair examples of loving the unlovable. Whether committed by ourselves or another there are times in our life where the unforgivable occurs and it seems that loving the unlovable seems impossible. Nothing can make us or someone else lovable again.

It is amongst the unlovable that saints appear. The friend that tells you his/her love for you is unconditional no matter what you may have done. The saint who cares for the individuals who society has deemed not fixable and thus not worthy of its collective love. The man or woman who hits rock bottom, but finds a way to start loving themselves again and gets back up off the floor. There are thousands of examples.

The truth is there are no unlovables. An impossibility just like my granddaughter who is simply lost in a moment of self-doubt. A second truth is we are just as capable as God to find it within ourselves to love even the unlovable. There is a saint in each and every one of us.




About the author

Webb Hubbell, former Associate Attorney General of the United States, is an author and lecturer. His novels, When Men Betray, Ginger Snaps, and A Game Of Inches, are published by Beaufort Books and are available online, in your local bookstore, or you can order autographed copies at When Men Betray won one of the IndieFab awards for best novel in 2014. Ginger Snaps Won the IPPY Awards Gold Medal for best suspense/thriller.

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