People used to ask, “if only you had stayed in Arkansas what do you think would of happened?” Now they ask “ if only you had been able to diagnose your disease earlier…? My answer hasn’t changed even though the question has. I rely on your Sufi wisdom and say, “If only … leads me down a path upon which I become weaker and weaker with every step.”
One of life’s greatest obstacles can be regret. Instead of engaging in “if only,” we need to work hard at saying to ourselves, “Forget the past . Just keep moving forward.” This way of thinking provides a reservoir of resolution and flexibility, which allows us to overcome any disappointment about the past. It offers us the hope that we can redeem any situation.
When we take this path we take the opportunity to feel a strength that can adapt to any situation and yet remain rooted in, and moving toward, the purpose of our life.