I can’t wait to hear about the Sufi spiritual retreat you attended. I am curious about how much of the work you do at the retreat involves inviting in a higher force. The concept of self-help is pervasive in modern society. There are self-help diets, self-help exercise plans, self-help yoga, and self-help programs that can cure just about any addiction we can possible imagine. Now I believe that self-help is fine for getting over some hang-ups, adapting to the world, and healing relationships or illness to a limited extent. But self-help isn’t going to bring about the transformation that a genuinely spiritual process does. Seeing yourself as you really are is a great healing force in itself, if you can bear it. Some people need therapists to help them bear it. But in self-help and therapy you are chiefly working on the self you see.
Spiritual change takes place when the person, not what is seen, begins to change and deepen. When that part of you that sees begins to deepen, then you are opening to real change. But to do this kind of spiritual work you must invite into yourself God, Christ, or the Holy Spirit, or whatever your faith wants to call the force that redefines you. It is an entirely different engagement than self-help.
Your friend, Webb