For myself I suffer more for my friends, my family, and others I come across or hear about, than I do myself. When a friend is sick, a family member is in a terrible situation, or I hear of some tragedy or terrible suffering, I fret and at times get consumed with their problems. My own travails take a back seat because I know that somehow things do indeed work out. I trust God with my own problems, but for some reason I have trouble trusting him with theirs.
It is incumbent on me to trust God with everyone else’s souls like I do with my own. If I can do so, I lose fear, cease to worry, and no longer suffer for the wrongs I am powerless to prevent. If I can learn to accept the truth that each sparrow is accounted for and he watches over my friends and family just as he watches over my own poor soul, then I am spared a lot of unnecessary suffering.