Grieving is a way of talking about the loss of people or things that we don’t know whether we can do without: a parent, a close friend, or a place. When we get to the point when we are not denying the loss, and we’re not blaming it on somebody, and we are not trying to make it go away, then we arrive where we have to affirm it: That person or place is gone. That part of my life is gone.

Actively relinquishing that we can’t keep opens doors to us. If you’ve lost a job, or your spouse, or your health, and you grieve that loss deeply , then you are able to ask, “Where do I go from here. What do I do know?”

Whenever we suffer a great loss there is an opportunity to create something substantial and beneficial, not only for ourselves, but for others. I say “opportunity” because it doesn’t have to happen. It’s possible to feel so overwhelmed we give up. One can try to numb it or escape. But it is an opportunity.

About the author

Webb Hubbell is the former Associate Attorney General of The United States. His novels, When Men Betray, Ginger Snaps, A Game of Inches, The Eighteenth Green, and The East End are published by Beaufort Books and are available online or at your local bookstore. When Men Betray won one of the IndieFab awards for best novel in 2014. Ginger Snaps and The Eighteenth Green won the IPPY Awards Gold Medal for best suspense/thriller. His latest, “Light of Day” will be on the bookstands soon.

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