Grieving is a way of talking about the loss of people or things that we don’t know whether we can do without: a parent, a close friend, or a place. When we get to the point when we are not denying the loss, and we’re not blaming it on somebody, and we are not trying to make it go away, then we arrive where we have to affirm it: That person or place is gone. That part of my life is gone.
Actively relinquishing that we can’t keep opens doors to us. If you’ve lost a job, or your spouse, or your health, and you grieve that loss deeply , then you are able to ask, “Where do I go from here. What do I do know?”
Whenever we suffer a great loss there is an opportunity to create something substantial and beneficial, not only for ourselves, but for others. I say “opportunity” because it doesn’t have to happen. It’s possible to feel so overwhelmed we give up. One can try to numb it or escape. But it is an opportunity.