Many of you have worked at soup kitchens or with the homeless. Next time, if you haven’t noticed already, that often the people fighting for the food at the front are the people who need it the least. It’s the people sitting at the back, too weak to fight, who need it most. So is it with sorrow and suffering. The people who don’t insist on their sorrow, who shrug off concern with an “I’m okay,” can often be the ones who feel it most strongly.
There is no hard and fast rule to our observations, but we learn a great deal about our neighbors by observing not just what they say or do, but what they don’t say or do.