When we think someone embodies a certain value or sets an example for a certain character trait, we might say, “He walks the walk, and talks the talk.” When we are talking about the spirit of love someone must, “work the works and speak the tones.” It is not the true spirit of love if it mantles into selfish impatience. It is not the spirit of love, and at the same time makes self the prominent object. It cannot be generous, and at the same time envious. It cannot delight in the purity of other hearts, and at the same time be suspicious of others’ motives.
When we truly love someone, God dwells in us, and his presence eliminates any unseemly and vain thoughts.