I’ve been fortunate to have and had many friends in my life like yourself. Some were gentle, some loyal to the core, and some who were just plain fun to be around. In my case many were all three. And in our search for meaning friendships are at its core, especially true friends who help you see yourself as you really are. That picture they force you to see is not necessarily the best version of yourself or one that has been photo shopped, but those true friends still love you and they keep you company because of your faults not in spite of them.
I admit having a few friends who were “rogues” for the lack of a better term. I knew they were likely to push the envelope, undependable, and at times use me as an alibi or “beard” in one of their shenanigans. Even yet, I loved them even though I knew if a hand grenade was thrown in our foxhole my rogue friend would throw me on top of it to protect himself.
Each of us are exposed to friends who are flawed, as we are flawed as well. The world as a whole is flawed, but it is in the understanding of the flawed that we develop character and empathy.