Suzy and I attended a wedding this weekend. It’s been awhile since we had attended a wedding and the minister’s brief homily reminded me that after the glow of those first few days, months, and years a good and lasting marriage requires balance, compromise, accommodation and mutual respect.
Much of a good life requires the ability to incorporate these attributes into our relationships with others as well. We need to balance our wants and opinions with the wants and opinions of our family, friends, and co-workers. Our way is not always the only way.
There are times to compromise and accomodate — not necessarily one’s core values, but seeking common ground and understanding where another is coming from leads to decisions and endings that leave both sides satisfied not at odds.
Lastly, begin every relationship with respect. No matter what separates you from another respect that individual as you want to be respected. Looking down upon another prevents you from seeing the sky and the stars in a relationship.
In other words begin every relationship like a marriage — with great expectations and planning on it lasting forever.