The most common form of change is not internal, but external, we are changed by the world around us. Every habit is context dependent. — James Clear, Atomic Habits.
James Clear offers two examples for his premise above. People tend to talk in whispers when in church, and when we find ourselves in a dark alley we are more wary. Of course, he goes on for chapters talking about how to change one’s habits by changing one’s environment. (I am enjoying his book, but I might be a little too old to be changing my bad habits).
Our environments are full of subtle and not-so-subtle cues that trigger our habits and behaviors. As Clear points out with the examples of whispering in a church or being wary in a dark alley, these aren’t conscious decisions as much as they are automatic responses to a specific context. The church’s solemn atmosphere naturally cues quiet reflection, while the unknown in a dark alley triggers our primal need for self-preservation.
This idea extends far beyond simple physical environments. Our social circles, the media we consume, and even the language we use all create a context that influences our actions. For instance, being around friends who prioritize fitness makes you more likely to work out, just as following news feeds filled with negativity can increase your anxiety. Clear’s method shifts the focus from an internal battle of willpower to a more manageable task: designing an environment that supports the person you want to become.
If you desire to make more time for spiritual improvement and cultivate calmness embrace simplicity, humility, generosity, and thankfulness. This is where Clear’s philosophy can be applied to an internal, spiritual context. While he focuses on external environments, the principles are the same: you can create an “inner environment” that fosters the habits you seek.
Think of it as arranging the furniture in your mind. By focusing on removing complexity, pride, and selfishness, you are effectively decluttering your mental space. Each small act of simplicity—like choosing a single, meaningful task over a dozen minor ones—is a step toward a less anxious mind. Similarly, practicing humility by acknowledging your limitations, or being generous with your time and attention, creates a mental context where gratitude can flourish. These aren’t just one-off actions; they are daily practices that build a new inner landscape, brick by brick.
The very nature of spiritual and personal development isn’t a linear climb to a final destination but a continuous path of discovery and refinement. The goal isn’t to reach a point where you are completely “changed” or “perfect.” Rather, it’s about the daily commitment to walking the path you’ve chosen, finding contentment and presence in each step. You’re not standing still; you’re simply walking a different kind of path. The steps you take now—of simplicity, humility, and generosity—are not about a frantic race but about a peaceful, deliberate journey toward a deeper connection with yourself and with God. Your age is not a barrier to this journey; it is an asset, bringing a lifetime of wisdom and perspective to the path you are now walking.
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