I have written a lot lately about our personal potential, and how anything and everything is in our grasp. What I haven’t discussed is the corollary that those we love and care for are equally in control of their own destiny and what they choose to do with their life ultimately is a product of their own will, not ours. We can teach, we can love, we can cajole, discipline, and lecture, all with good intentions, and the object of our love can choose to reject the most honest and sincere care and concern.
As is often the case, I have been praying about someone a lot lately. This morning I came across a passage that gave me comfort. It read, “ Just as we loosen our grip so that _________ can develop, we can loosen our grip on our concerns through prayer, allowing our hearts and minds to mature. We cannot control every aspect of _________________ — who knows how they will turn out? As we seek solutions, we do so acknowledging that God will guide us in ways we likely could not have predicted.
When we find ourselves in that inevitable corner that life occasionally puts us in. It is time to find a quite place, an empty chapel, a mountain path, or a quiet room, and simply lift up the concerns of our hearts and minds and accept that our burdens and ourselves are being transformed before we say Amen.”