How do we learn to love the unlovable?
I’ve been thinking about the concept of loving the unlovable a lot. Learning to love the “unlovable” goes against our natural instincts of self-preservation and justice. I’m not talking about forgiveness which is a different concept and sometimes a different matter, but loving someone or something that you have spent your entire being opposing that’s a stretch. While forgiveness is about releasing a burden, loving someone who has caused harm seems to demand a deeper, more difficult kind of transformation.
Maybe this concept isn’t a problem, and for those who it isn’t don’t try to find someone or something. But how do we get to loving the unlovable? I am no expert, but perhaps we begin as would teach a child. Each person, animal, plant, even the weather is a creation of God. If we look at each person or entity as originating from God and the ultimate source of love we tone down. When we look beyond their actions and see their inherent worth, we can begin to see them as something more than just their mistakes.
Loving the unlovable isn’t a destination; it’s a constant practice. It’s a journey of actively choosing compassion over resentment. It’s about recognizing that love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a choice we make every single day. The ultimate goal isn’t to justify bad behavior or to forget our own pain. Rather, it is to free ourselves from the poison of hatred, allowing us to find peace within ourselves.
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